Let’s Give Up Self-Imposed Limitations

When all the restrictions relating to Covid were lifted in England, I was thrilled skinny.

My freedom means a lot to me and I certainly don’t like being dictated to by anyone.

Then I thought but what restrictions do you impose upon yourself that limit you and your freedom?

Is it:

Oh, I can’t say that because what will they think, whoever they may be?

Or I can’t charge that because the client won’t pay.

Or I daren’t pick up the phone to such and such a person, they are far too important.

Or something else that you know you say to yourself that limits your freedom.

Whatever yours happens to be, it’s just a cotton-picking habit.

Your mind has made up a story which is a fantasy actually that something bad will happen if you say or do whatever it is you’re scared of saying or doing.

The chances are it won’t and even if it does, it really won’t be life-threatening.

You see, we are hard-wired for fear to protect us from physical danger. Yet the subconscious mind does not know the difference between a real physical danger and a vividly imagined one.

Which means if you have some fear-based story going on, you will stop yourself from doing something just in case it doesn’t work out.

What a pity that would be.

Instead switch it around and say to yourself, if I take this action, who may benefit from it. That way you are moving the focus off worrying about yourself to thinking of someone else.

Just a thought.

1)   Plan your Christmas tasks so you have plenty of time and stick to them. It reminds me of that old age: “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

2)   Have a budget for what you’re spending on gifts, food, etc. and stick to it. What’s the point of over-spending if it means you spending the next 3 months catching up?

3)   Programme in short bursts of “you time” so you can rest and recuperate. This is critical and, paradoxically, the busier you are, the more important it is for you to do this. When working with clients, I see the tendency to move from one task to another, like an automaton, and without giving themselves the time to think, acknowledge wins or rest.

4)   Keep a positive mental attitude. Not much more to say on this one, except that it will be easier to achieve if you apply points 1-3 and 5-8.

5)   Don’t take it all too seriously!

6)   When buying gifts, it’s not how much you spend, it’s how much thought goes   into them and how you feel when you buy them that counts. If you’re feeling stressed and buy something expensive in a rush, then the receiver is receiving your stress. On the other hand, if you buy gifts when you’re feeling relaxed and happy, then the recipients will receive that energy.

Which do you think they will prefer?

7)   When you notice the stress creeping in, stop, take a deep breath and feel grateful for everything and everyone in your life. This only takes a few minutes to do and yet the benefit can be proportionally much greater.

8)   If you have lost loved ones, it’s normal to feel sad that they’re no longer with you. I can personally relate to that one! Then you can flip it around and be grateful that they were a part of your life. Then focus on what you’re grateful for now. You may not always choose the circumstances in which you find yourself, however, you are always at liberty to choose what you think about them. Understanding and realising that is true power.

9)   If all else fails, just get drunk! 
When all the jobs are done, you can just relax and enjoy yourself. Then when you’re ready, reflect on the wins, challenges and insights that 2017 brought you and prepare for the coming year.
Thank you for reading and for your comments and I look forward to sharing more with you in 2018.
It only remains for me to wish you the happiest Christmas and a very prosperous 2018.

Vanessa Ugatti with purple and black dress on

I’m Vanessa Ugatti, author of Amazon Best Seller, “True Worth”. I help professional services firms to increase revenue ethically, without having to work harder, by sharing my ground-breaking TRUE WORTH step-by-step methodology. Systematic under-charging, discounting and over-servicing can be banished forever, as my unique formula can be immediately applied, leading to a wealthier firm and healthier and happier staff.

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